It was a long time ago that Here’s the Thing… was started and over the years it has served me well. It has allowed me to kinda of vent some of the crazy situations I have gotten into or seen over these last years. You may ask, where have I been?
My absence in the last few years can be defined by having a hard time writing about anything. The events that were in my life made me take pause and put my head down and focus on how to just move forward everyday. Frankly, I didn’t find anything funny or entertaining. Most times I avoided even writing about anything cause it was just too hard to put into words the things I wanted to share.
So, I am lifting my head and have decided to start with a New Year Resolution…..Write.
Here’s the Thing…..New Year Resolutions NEVER seem to stick. With that said, I am going to try to do this. Yes, you are allowed to cheer me on cause I know that you are making a few resolution’s yourself and YOU are gonna need my help too. Yours may be a bit more difficult to fulfill as dieting rarely sticks longer than the last meal you ate. I don’t have to worry about driving down the road and turning into a drive thru that pumps burgers and fries out the window. All I need to do is keep my computer on and make sure that I sit long enough to come up with a story that entertains.
Today, I begin this new journey and hopefully I can make it to the end of 2019. It’s dreamy to think that I will have fulfilled a New Year Resolution, time will only tell.
Now….put down those fries and go for a walk.
I have seen more than my share of stupid and crazy things. Those things are gonna be for another day but for now, I would like to talk about something very important.
It use to be that going for a nice drive down the highway or down a lone country road was, at times, fun. The road, the car filled with music and some good company made for a good time. Often times, there was no real destination in mind, a stop at a local diner or ice cream stand would make for a fun afternoon. Unfortunately, that has seemed to be a distant memory. It seems that many other people like to do the same thing but for them, being on the phone seems to be more important than enjoying the atmosphere around them. Take note: You are ruining it for all of us!
So here’s the question, “Can you stop texting or looking at your phone while driving for at least 5 minutes?”
I know I can, I know how it feels to be on the highway and watch you enter the highway at 65 mile per hour or higher and cruise into the other lane, my lane. You risk my life and all those around you. I watch you fumble with the phone as you enter digits in it to make a message. You look really silly. Sounds like I am on my soap box here but you are going to kill someone if you don’t stop texting.
Which brings me to another question, if you can text and be so erratic and say it’s safe, why can not I have a few beers and drive? I am sure that if I drink and drive I can operate the vehicle I am driving and keep it on the road without running into you. Why should I limit my alcohol intake to keep you safe? I mean, really, aren’t you doing the same thing I am while I drive? You aren’t paying attention to the road. You are swerving all over the place and making me try to avoid you. Why am I subject to strict laws while you seem to be able to do what you want without any regard.
You pick up your phone to text, I should be able to pick up a beer can. Why not….
Actually, maybe we both should stop this reckless behavior and have the same requirements, strict laws that scare the crap out of both of us so we think twice before we do these deeds. I should have a test and your phone should not be able to operate for texting while in a moving car. I know, I know, I can hear the phone ringing now telling me to stop being so judgmental, I can hear it now, the haters will say, how dare you compare the two, on and on….Go ahead and try to call me, but I can’t answer you right now, cause, I am driving.
It seems like there is so much to write about these days that to NOT write a comment or two seems …foolish. I am not sure where to begin.. Do I talk about the job interview I had that seems to have crossed the line of legal questions that can be asked? Or do I discuss how Kelly Anne, Counselor to the President is touting Ivanka’s business? Or maybe, I should talk about how incredibly elated I am that the Patriots won the Super Bowl?
It seems lately that I have stepped into a world of crazy stuff that before would have sent me on my high horse demanding clarity and correction of the wrongs that had occurred. Well, I must admit, I did do that yesterday after I had a job interview that didn’t go exactly to plan. The jury is still out on the final outcome of the interview but I will say this, I am not sure whose fault it was, mine for not stopping the interview or the other persons fault for asking the unlawful question.
When I watched Kelly Anne on national TV tell me that I should buy Ivanka’s clothing and fashion line, I nearly heaved the TV off the table. Federal employee’s are not allowed to discuss or promote businesses. She has been reprimanded but Dad is the President and he did tweet about her clothing so, where is the separation of what’s right and what’s wrong?
With the lines of decency and law seemingly being meshed together by the highest office of our country these days, who is guiding us in a world that civility once held us together? I have been listening and watching various media and trying to understand the chaos that is not only surrounding us but invading the very fiber of our daily lives. There was a time that disagreeing was good, was healthy, was needed to have it in order to obtain the best ideas that would rise to surface and serve us all. There were laws that needed to be followed too. These days, it’s gotten so toxic that nothing seems to be respectfully done.
Here’s the Thing…..
In this new altered state of affairs, it’s no wonder that the Patriots pulled off the most incredible comeback in football history….
When I tell my daughter to do something she used to do it. No questions asked, just did it but now, she is a young adult who by her own right tells me, “No.” At first, I was a little surprised, and yes, delighted in her new found independence but other times I was so afraid for her. Not afraid that she couldn’t achieve the goals she was striving for but afraid that those obstacles and pit falls that had fallen upon me would blind side her in the worst possible way. She knows right from wrong, she knows there are consequences, she respects others and she was brought up well.
I could see vividly in my mind the crying, the tears and I could feel the pain that she would feel from decisions that somehow I felt were not the best. I didn’t want her to go through such pain so, I would fight with her and fight till somehow the “new idea” would fade away and she would continue on her way. Another disaster totally missed. I was able to sleep a little better at night but, it never stayed that way for long.
It would happen again, but this time I was reminded that she had to make her own mistakes and she had to find a way if it failed. That no matter how much I wanted to protect her, she needed to go. To go and discover the path that would lead her on her own journey.
Here’s the thing….How different is this growing up of a child any different from a new President who seems to fight at every turn? He fights businesses, celebrities, leaders, and well, everyone. Like my daughter, he gets on social media (which I can not stand) and makes comments that are misunderstood, rude, brash, you name it. Though each one has an image of what they want done there might be a point here to make.
The point being, let them grow up.
I am not a twitter fan. I told my daughter this a long time ago and I will tell anyone who wants to “tweet” to just keep their opinion to themselves. I find it to not only complicate a situation but gets too many opinions involved. There is so much drama surrounding a tweet that the real issue seems to get lost in the side drama issues . No one can have a solid, good, conversation with limited characters.
If you want to “tell” someone something, talk to them directly. Lay out your argument or your news and give the person the opportunity to talk to you directly about what you are saying. That’s a conversation and somehow I think that does not seem to be happening as often as it should these days. Now, if you really don’t want to answer someone questioning you, then maybe tweeting it is a good way to speak. Unfortunately, it can make you appear uneducated.
If tweeting is your thing, there should be some basic rules. You should:
- Always have a disclaimer of contents on the bottom
- Check your spelling
- Check your grammar
- Realize it never gets fully deleted
- Not everyone cares or many will criticize it
Here’s the Thing…. Talking to people is hard. They may not always want to hear about what you are saying cause sometimes, no one really cares what you think. Also, having a conversation, articulating what you really mean is not always an easy thing to do. It takes thought, it takes poise and it takes you to actually stand in front of your audience.
I get it, it is good for some things such as; telling me that there has been an emergency but beyond that…. Have a courier deliver it to me.
Well, Happy New Year!
I am hoping that all of you enjoyed the Holidays as much as I did. Some of you, I think, may have gotten a bit mad at me when I stood in line at the grocery store and had a conversation with the cashier. Others of you may have gotten mad because I actually decided to drive the speed limit when traveling to see family. And well, others of you may have been just plain old frustrated that you had to be patient. I am sure that the moments pasted and that the real issue was that you were dealing with family in your house. That maybe you had to cook a big meal you had no idea had to make or maybe it was because your children, whether young or old, were running around the house messing it up right after you cleaned it.
All these things can make anyone grumpy, upset or plain old mean. I do hope that when you gathered around the dinner table, couch or wherever you decided to eat a Holiday meal, you smiled and felt like you were loved.
Here’s the Thing…..All families have issues, good ones or bad ones. All of us try so hard to make it all so perfect, but that is not why we get together. The reason is to celebrate but also to reconnect to all of those that in the coming year, you will not or may not be able see again.
So, when you are writing out those New Year resolutions, think about adding a few that are not about losing weight, but to reconnect with those you know, to share time with your family and to reconnect with those that maybe you did not see over the Holidays.
…….Where does one begin? Not sure what to do, where to turn or frankly, what can I say that has not been already said on the news. One thing is for sure, that I hope we all know what we are doing and we can go back to normal. I actually have no idea what normal is anymore, it seems like the only thing normal is that there is always going to be change.
As a woman, with a daughter, I am not sure where we stand in this new normal. Do we stand next to, beside or behind our new President- elect? Or, like when President- elect Trump was giving his speech of victory, do we place our youngest male child next to the new President?
It struck me … and Here’s the Thing…. We need to get use to it.