Here’s to Drinks & Texting…

I have seen more than my share of stupid and crazy things. Those things are gonna be for another day but for now, I would like to talk about something very important.

It use to be that going for a nice drive down the highway or down a lone country road was, at times, fun. The road, the car filled with music and some good company made for a good time. Often times, there was no real destination in mind, a stop at a local diner or ice cream stand would make for a fun afternoon. Unfortunately, that has seemed to be a distant memory. It seems that many other people like to do the same thing but for them, being on the phone seems to be more important than enjoying the atmosphere around them. Take note: You are ruining it for all of us!

So here’s the question, “Can you stop texting or looking at your phone while driving for at least 5 minutes?”

I know I can, I know how it feels to be on the highway and watch you enter the highway at 65 mile per hour or higher and cruise into the other lane, my lane. You risk my life and all those around you. I watch you fumble with the phone as you enter digits in it to make a message. You look really silly.  Sounds like I am on my soap box here but you are going to kill someone if you don’t stop texting.

Which brings me to another question, if you can text and be so erratic and say it’s safe, why can not I have a few beers and drive?   I am sure that if I drink and drive I can operate the vehicle I am driving and keep it on the road without running into you. Why should I limit my alcohol intake to keep you safe? I mean, really, aren’t you doing the same thing I am while I drive? You aren’t paying attention to the road. You are swerving all over the place and making me try to avoid you. Why am I subject to strict laws while you seem to be able to do what you want without any regard.

You pick up your phone to text, I should be able to pick up a beer can. Why not….

Actually, maybe we both should stop this reckless behavior and have the same requirements, strict laws that scare the crap out of both of us so we think twice before we do these deeds. I should have a test and your phone should not be able to operate for texting while in a moving car. I know, I know, I can hear the phone ringing now telling me to stop being so judgmental,  I can hear it now, the haters will say, how dare you compare the two, on and on….Go ahead and try to call me, but I can’t answer you right now, cause, I am driving.


Contributory Negligence

It seems like there is so much to write about these days that to NOT write a comment or two seems …foolish. I am not sure where to begin.. Do I talk about the job interview I had that seems to have crossed the line of legal questions that can be asked? Or do I discuss how Kelly Anne, Counselor to the President is touting Ivanka’s business? Or maybe, I should talk about how incredibly elated I am that the Patriots won the Super Bowl?

It seems lately that I have stepped into a world of crazy stuff that before would have sent me on my high horse demanding clarity and correction of the wrongs that had occurred. Well, I must admit, I did do that yesterday after I  had a job interview that didn’t go exactly to plan. The jury is still out on the final outcome of the interview but I will say this, I am not sure whose fault it was, mine for not stopping the interview or the other persons fault for asking the unlawful question.

When I watched Kelly Anne on national TV tell me that I should buy Ivanka’s clothing and fashion line, I nearly heaved the TV off the table. Federal employee’s are not allowed to discuss or promote businesses. She has been reprimanded but Dad is the President and he did tweet about her clothing so, where is the separation of what’s right and what’s wrong?

With the lines of decency and law seemingly being meshed together by the highest office of our country these days, who is guiding us in a world that civility once held us together? I have been listening and watching various media and trying to understand the chaos that is not only surrounding us but invading the very fiber of our daily lives. There was a time that disagreeing was good, was healthy, was needed to have it in order to obtain the best ideas that would rise to surface and serve us all.  There were laws that needed to be followed too. These days, it’s gotten so toxic that nothing seems to be respectfully done.


Here’s the Thing…..

In this new altered state of affairs, it’s no wonder that the Patriots pulled off the most incredible comeback in football history….

“Roger That!”





It’s Hard to Grow Up….

When I tell my daughter to do something she used to do it. No questions asked, just did it but now, she is a young adult who by her own right tells me, “No.” At first, I was a little surprised, and yes, delighted in her new found independence but other times I was so afraid for her. Not afraid that she couldn’t achieve the goals she was striving for but afraid that those obstacles and pit falls that had fallen upon me would blind side her in the worst possible way.  She knows right from wrong, she knows there are consequences, she respects others and she was brought up well.

I could see vividly in my mind the crying, the tears and I could feel the pain that she would feel from decisions that somehow I felt were not the best. I didn’t want her to go through such pain so, I would fight with her and fight till somehow the “new idea” would fade away and she would continue on her way. Another disaster totally missed. I was able to sleep a little better at night but, it never stayed that way for long.

It would happen again, but this time I was reminded that she had to make her own mistakes and she had to find a way if it failed. That no matter how much I wanted to protect her, she needed to go. To go and discover the path that would lead her on her own journey.

Here’s the thing….How different is this growing up of a child any different from a new President who seems to fight at every turn? He fights businesses, celebrities, leaders, and well, everyone.  Like my daughter, he gets on social media (which I can not stand) and makes comments that are misunderstood, rude, brash, you name it. Though each one has an image of what they want done there might be a point here to make.

The point being, let them grow up.

A Little Birdie Told Me…


I am not a twitter fan. I told my daughter this a long time ago and I will tell anyone who wants to “tweet” to just keep their opinion to themselves. I find it to not only complicate a situation but gets too many opinions involved. There is so much drama surrounding a tweet that the real issue seems to get lost in the side drama issues . No one can have a solid, good, conversation with limited characters.

If you want to “tell” someone something, talk to them directly. Lay out your argument or your news and give the person the opportunity to talk to you directly about what you are saying. That’s a conversation and somehow I think that does not seem to be happening as often as it should these days. Now, if you really don’t want to answer someone questioning you, then maybe tweeting it is a good way to speak. Unfortunately, it can make you appear uneducated.

If tweeting is your thing, there should be some basic rules. You should:

  1. Always have a disclaimer of contents on the bottom
  2. Check your spelling
  3. Check your grammar
  4.  Realize it never gets fully deleted
  5. Not everyone cares or many will criticize it

Here’s the Thing…. Talking to people is hard. They may not always want to hear about what you are saying cause sometimes, no one really cares what you think. Also, having a conversation, articulating what you really mean is not always an easy thing to do. It takes thought, it takes poise and it takes you to actually stand in front of your audience.

I get it, it is good for some things such as; telling me that there has been an emergency but beyond that…. Have a courier deliver it to me.

Think Before You Do…

There seems to be a lot of different opinions  running around on the web lately. At first I did not give it any thought. I figured, that is what all of us are able to do, give different perspectives and ideas on what we think is right . But in the process of my trolling the web, I seem to be reading a lot of comments that are harsh. Some have even generated petitions against what someone else thought was funny, humorous and/or entertaining.

Now a days there is a larger audience to share our thoughts and with that comes responsibility. It also can expose unwanted, unfounded “experts” on how right or wrong the thought is.   So it begs the question, who is right?  By what standards or level of responsibility do we own when we say what we want?

Each day the rhetoric appears to be a spiraling out of control of what is acceptable to one and not the other. Each person has the right to voice what they want but at what level of  engagement does respecting the other side begin? By whose guidelines should each person understand that when debating, arguing or passionately stating an opinion be acceptable?

All that can be said from my point of view is that if one is going to present an opinion, do so with knowing that not everyone is going to agree. Also, look at the source that the information is coming from, it is for entertainment, political, satirical, or another form of writing that is presenting  a thought. Know the source, do your homework before passionately condemning the writer. Viewing the web from this perspective could assist in the process of  cooling one’s head before spewing one’s own comments.

Remember too, you can always walk away or turn it off.

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